REFLECT

Assess your level of intentionality over the past 120 days.

Marriage

How intentional have you been? (Check all that apply)

NURTURING INTIMACY:

·Had a “date night” twice or more per monthto focus on one another

 without the children

·Wrote a note, gave a flower or some othertangible expression of love at least twice per month

·Called during the day, sat down to chat,took walks together, or some other time of focused, non-task drivencommunication at least three times per week

·Prayed with my spouse (other than sayinggrace over a meal) at least

 twice per week

·      Demonstrated meaningful touch (hugs, kisses, caressing) and/or verbal affirmation (words of appreciation, admiration, affection) at least once per day

AVOIDINGDANGERS:

·      Took steps to reduce risk to my marriage in vulnerable areas (bad

temper, sexual temptation, office relationships,time away from home, demeaning language, substance abuse, etc.) by establishing and/or maintaining boundaries, increasing accountability, etc.

·      Made a consistent effort to take care of myself physically and emotionally to be thebest lifelong partner I can be

·      Admitted I was wrong and apologized and/or forgave before going to bed after conflicts with my spouse.

Marriage Intentionality Summary

Based upon your answers above, circle theitem that best describes your

level of intentionality over the past 120days with regard to building a

life-long, thriving marriage.

A: Very Intentional •B: Not Bad • C: Hit and Miss • D: Mostly Miss • F:

Totally Haphazard

Not Applicable (unmarried)

Faith @ Home

How intentionalhave you been? (Check all that apply)

PARENTS:

·      Did something special with my children (hobby, ice cream date, movie night, etc.)at least twice per month

·      Connected relationally with my children (chatting, helping with

homework, eating dinner together at thetable, etc.) at least once per day

·      Created or captured an occasion within the home for passing my beliefs and values to mychildren (family night activity, mealtime conversation, bedtime reading, etc.)at least once per week

·      Prayed with my children (including meals, bedtime, etc.) at least five

times per week

·      Admitted I was wrong and apologized and/or forgave before going to bed after conflicts with my children

·      Served together (service project, family mission trip, volunteer in

children’s ministry, etc.) and/orparticipated in an intergenerational faith experience other than regular church services (father/daughter banquet, father/son event, parent/teen Bible study,etc.)

with my children at least once in the past 120 days

GRANDPARENTS:

·      Did something to foster a relational connection with my grandchildren (wrote aletter, hobby, ice cream date, movie night, phone conversations, etc.) at least once per month

·      Did something intentional to directly (with grandchildren) or indirectly(assistingthe parents) help my grandchildren inherit a strong spiritual legacy at leastonce in the past 120 days

·      Served in a ministry, missions or service project or participated in an

intergenerational faith experience with mygrandchildren at least once in the past 120 days.

Faith @ Home Intentionality Summary

Based upon your answers above, circle theitem that best describes your

level of intentionality over the past 120days with regard to passing faith

to the next generation.

A: Very Intentional •B: Not Bad • C: Hit and Miss • D: Mostly Miss • F:

Totally Haphazard

Not Applicable (no children/grandchildren

Walk Matching Talk

Would your family say that your life at homereflects what you claim to

believe?

A: Consistently • B:Most Times • C: Hit and Miss • D: Mostly Miss • F: No